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Susan Stageman & Alex Tollen
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Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is a system for understanding the patterns of human success and helps people acquire those patterns. The Purpose of The Brain Language Podcast is to introduce NLP concepts that will enhance and enrich your business and personal life. Regardless of where you are in your journey, you can acquire and access the knowledge that will help to get you from where you are to where you want to be. We seek to deliver golden nuggets of NLP knowledge that you can use to get to the next level. You can get the best and most useful tools that NLP has to offer in bite-size pieces from our show!
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Nov 9, 2020
EP #43 What do you when you cannot decide
Indecisiveness is something that seems to plague a lot of people. It can be appreciated because it has a positive intent. I say this because being indecisive is a strategy unto itself. How do you decide to be indecisive? Well, you have to decide not to decide. It’s the same as no response is a response. You are making a decision not to make a decision.
This episode explores strategies for deciding when indecision takes over. What causes indecisiveness? What are some of the problems it causes? What stops us from making decisions. What are some steps to getting to a good decision? What are four things you need to make good decisions, and what is the formula for making good decisions? What is the role of intuition?
All of it involves clarity at each level.
*VISION*
Your highest level is Vision – What is your overall vision for your life? How do you see yourself spending your days? In other words, what do you value; teaching, working with people, working with machines, travel, exploration, discovery, adventure, etc.?
*OUTCOMES*
Next, how can that Vision be met? These are your possible Outcomes. Do you want to have a career, a hobby, a family, be a homemaker? Your outcomes could be met through a certain type of career (teaching, financial planning, artist, trainer, business coach, travel agent, etc.)
*CRITERIA*
When you have your vision and possible outcomes, decide what the criteria are in the outcomes. What is important to you about something?
For example, if a person's criteria are working with people, being independent, making over $100,000 a year, having balance, and maintaining their health, they want an outcome that will fit those criteria. You might not be suited to running your own business because you need structure. Where can you get your other criteria met to get what you want and still get the structure? Also, if something does not meet a criterion, you say NO! Other opportunities will come along.
*INFORMATION*
Once you have your criteria, outcome, and vision, now make certain you have enough information to decide. Even your intuition will work better with more information.
Speaking of intuition….if something nags you about it. PAY ATTENTION. A negative pervasive feeling is also information and needs to be checked out by gathering more information. If you can’t get more information, move on.
The other factor worth mentioning here is timing. Sometimes it’s not that you need to decide between either/or but when. Sometimes choices can be ordered on a timeline to contribute to a progression of accomplishments, each step of the development for the next step. Do I go for the dream job, or do I take this consulting job for 4 months? Do the consulting job while looking for a dream job. They aren’t mutually exclusive. They can both be a part of a larger vision.
The formula for decisiveness.
· Be very clear on your overall vision
· Be clear about the outcomes that would give you the vision
· Be concise about your criteria that will meet those outcomes.
· Then gather enough information to make the decision intelligent.
The person who successfully flies by the seat of their pants has taken flying lessons.
Oct 16, 2020
EP-#42 How come I am not doing the things I really want to do?
*What are some of the things we put off doing, don’t do, think about doing but don’t do even though we know how to do them?*
It can be as simple as reading a book, fixing something in your house, taking a class, returning that shirt. or changing the oil in your car. This isn’t even taking into consideration big things: moving, changing jobs, changing careers, starting a business.
It is frustrating when we have ideas and tasks we want to do but don’t seem to make yourself do them. It seems so simple. What stops us?
1. Modal operators: must, have to, want, need, should
2. Submodality maps
3. Don't know how or missing information
4. Lateral or mismatched criteria
5. Values
6. Confusion with goals and tasks
7. Viewed as not fun or significant
This episode discusses strategies to get yourself going and where to start.
Sep 9, 2020
EP #41 Words, Words, Words. Which One Do I Use?
We live in a world with words surrounding us like we are fish in the water. We are aware of words but not necessarily conscious of their meaning or how they affect others. This episode is about the power of language. Words inform, and they also influence. The study of NLP is about how language affects our emotions and, therefore, our nervous system. Words subtly influence how to think about something without us ever knowing that it does. When we listen to a description of an experience or person and find ourselves having an emotional response, it is usually due to the words to make that description. This episode explores the nature of language and how we are manipulated into thinking a certain way about something by the adjectives and adverbs used to describe it. If you like to do your own thinking, you will enjoy exploring the topic in this episode.
Aug 4, 2020
EP #40 Meta Programs: Working Organization, Self/Other, Rule Structure, Convincer
In our 40th episode, we discuss for each pattern, what it means to exhibit a certain pattern, how to determine a pattern and the influencing language for each pattern. We repeat working organization, the patterns of how people sort their world - people, place, thing, activity, or information. At work, if a person is a high people-sort, yet they are in a job that centers mostly around processes and information, they will not be productive. Every job has a profile, having the right person to fit the profile will ensure that work gets completed and the person is happy in the job. The same goes for Self/Other, and Rule Structure. Self/Other is a pattern that helps people determine where a person puts their attention - on themselves or on themselves. This pattern distinguishes between those people who give and respond to feedback that lets them know how the conversation is going. The Rule Structure pattern has 4 categories: my/my, my/./ no/my, and my/your. Helps determine what rule structure a person uses and whether they will be suited for a certain type of work. And finally, the Convincer Channel and Mode. This is how a person is convinced - either see, hear, read, do - and what mode they use to be convinced - number of times, over time, consistently (never quite convinced) or automatic.
Jul 16, 2020
EP #39 Meta Programs: Working Organization (Primary Focus repeat) and Working Scope
We visit Working Organization (primary focus) again (People, Place, Activity, Thing, Information; see EP #38) and Working Scope: General or Specific. Since Working Organization is explained in EP #38, we go to General or Specific. General or Specific whether a person likes the big picture or overall design of something or if they want the details. This pattern is important when it comes to communication in general. A "general person" likes summaries and overviews but does not like to get mired in details. The "specific person" likes details and finds the general communication random and hard to understand. A "general" can understand 'general' or 'specific'. The "specific" understands specific only. The General pattern is the absence of the Specific pattern. The hallmark of the Specific pattern is use of proper names, adjectives, adverbs, sequences, and modifiers. There is a pattern that features both General and Specific. This person can see the vision for the whole project and attend to any level of the projects as well.
Jul 16, 2020
EP #38 Working Style, Working Organization, Stress Response
This episode continues our journey through the Meta Programs (LAB Profile). We discuss a person's working style - how a person does their best: do they like to work alone, with others around them, or work in a true team. With many people working from home these days this is useful information to help them discover why they are continuing to keep their productivity up or why they have trouble being motivated. Another pattern is the Working Organization: where does a person put their attention - on People, Place, Thing (Task or Process), Information, Activity, Money, or Time. Our third pattern is about stress response; how do we react to normal stress: Thinking (first responder-like), Choice (go into emotion and then come out), or Feeling (go into emotion and stay there). In the world of business, these patterns are important because getting the right person in the right job maximizes the productivity and happiness of the individual as well as the company. If you like to work around people with your own responsibilities, working by yourself will reduce your productivity. If you like to work alone and are forced to work around others, your productivity will go down. If you like shared responsibility (the true team), you will have a difficult time carrying parts of projects by yourself. By the way, Americans, in general, are not good with true teams. The majority of workers in the U.S. are proximity workers - love to work around others and have their own responsibilities. Knowing how you work and the situations that make you the happiest will enhance your working life and your income.
Jun 27, 2020
EP #37 - Meta Programs Part 3 - Motivation Source, Reason and Decision
In this episode, we continue exploring the sorting patterns of humans to determine where our motivation comes from, our motivation reason, and motivation decision. Each of these patterns determines whether we store our standards inside of us or outside, whether we like to follow set procedures or like generating alternatives and how long we will go before a significant change in a particular context. These are important traits when it comes to how we communicate and influence someone, whether we are competent in accomplishing specific tasks or reaching goals, learning, or whether a particular job is right for us.
Apr 8, 2020
Ep #36 - NLP Tips & Tactics For Navigating The Effects Of COVID-19
In this episode, we discuss the nature and effects the coronavirus is having on on us all. Regardless of what you're situation may be, stressed or not, you are having to deal with the impact COVID-19 is having. The underlying truth is that like any negative experience, there is a structure and a method to effectively navigate it. We provide some NLP tools and logic to help you get through the current state of affairs.
Mar 26, 2020
Ep #35 - Meta Programs Part 2: Level of Activity & Direction
In this episode, we talk about two Meta Programs that describe why we do what we do. The pattern identified as level of activity is all about when a person is proactive or reactive. Another way to think about level of activity is when we initiate or wait. The other pattern that we discuss is motivation direction and this refers to move away from or move toward. In other words, motivation direction refers to when we move toward a goal or away from a problem, toward pleasure or away from pain. Tune into this episode to learn how to identify these patterns and what implications they have on our behaviors.
Mar 10, 2020
Ep #34 - Meta Programs: The What And How To Use Them
In this episode, we work to explain what Meta Programs are in terms of NLP and the subconscious mind. Meta programs are the deeply rooted neurological processes that manage and direct other mental processes. What we pay attention to, how we feel about money, and how we respond to change all stem from our subconscious programming. This is the first in a series of episodes in which we will unpack these programs and their implications.
Feb 27, 2020
Ep #33 - How to Enhance Your Sensory Acuity For Improving Your Communication
In this episode, we work to define sensory acuity and deliver practical methods to employ it into your communication skills. Sensory acuity boils down to how well you use your five senses (VAKOG) to observe other people with curiosity instead of judgment. In NLP, sensory acuity refers to using our senses to make accurate observations about ourselves and others.
For more awesome info about NLP or to work with Susan directly please visit her website www.nlptrainingconcepts.com
Feb 12, 2020
Ep #32 - Using NLP & Submodalities for a Change
In this episode, Susan explains what submodalities are in terms of your brain's operating system and how you can use them to incite change in our behavior. Humans are meaning-making machines and we anchor pictures, sounds, feelings, and words to our thoughts. Tune in to find out how this affects how we feel about what has happened and what we're going to do about it.
Jan 28, 2020
Ep #31 - The Truth About Online NLP Training
In this episode, we cover what Neuro-Linguistic Programming is, what training can do for you, and the difference between online and live classroom education in NLP. Susan and James both have their own experiences with online training and share them along with a solution for those who have only taken classes on the internet.
Jan 14, 2020
Ep #30 - The NLP Six Step Reframing Process
In this episode, we breakdown the NLP six-step reframing process with a live demonstration. The six-step reframe process helps people to eliminate or change unwanted behaviors. Over the years, the six-step reframe process has been used by therapists all over the globe to rapidly change negative behaviors.
Dec 31, 2019
Ep #29 - Solar Flares, Finances, and Personal Growth
In this episode, we discuss metaphors for cause and effect. There is a distinction between correlation and cause and effect situations. There are times when finding the meaning in events can serve us and other times it can hold us back. The truth is our belief about the meaning behind an experience can often be elusive.
Dec 11, 2019
Ep #28 - Goals: New Year New You, The NLP Way.
Get ready for 2020! In this episode, we talk about not only how to set goals but how to INSTALL them so they just happen. No, it is not magical thinking or wishful thinking or visualization. There are certain ways to tell your mind that this is what you want. What has to happen for your mind to understand what you want? Certain key factors must be met in order to have the right formula. Set your goals to align with certain key factors and then create the pattern of thinking that will manifest them. It isn’t magic but it sometimes seems that way.
Nov 27, 2019
Ep #27 - Money & Wealth Powered by NLP
In this episode, we discuss the significant role beliefs play in our financial success. We all have deep beliefs and values that are often beyond our awareness and affect our relationship with money. We can take measures to identify both the beliefs that limit and empower us in regards to money. Only when we've identified the limiting money beliefs can we truly begin to work on them.
Nov 13, 2019
Ep #26 - NLP Holiday Management Toolkit
In this episode, we decided to break away from the conventional NLP processes and provide a little help to the holiday season. This time of the year can be filled with mixed experiences, ranging from joyful to stressful. The great news is many NLP tools can be beneficial for us in this festive time of the year.
Oct 30, 2019
Ep #25 - Accessing Behavioral Resources with NLP
In this episode, we discuss how you can access behavioral resources with tools found in NLP. Often when we feel stuck or overly stressed, it is due to our perspectives and internal states. NLP has a number of tools we can use to overcome these limiting states and generate behaviors to overcome adversity.
Oct 15, 2019
Ep #24 - The Truth About Trauma
In this episode, we discuss how people tend to think of trauma emulating from large traumatic events, but in reality, a traumatic event could be as small as your brother eating all of your Halloween candy. We will also explain how these events lead to limiting beliefs and what NLP can do about it.
Oct 1, 2019
Ep #23 - The Power That Our Beliefs Have Over Us
In this episode, we dive into how the beliefs we hold have a tremendous effect on our lives. Many of the experiences we have early on in life tend to solidify themselves into generalizations we believe to be true about the world. More often than not, these deeply hidden generalizations are keeping us from the life we want.
Sep 17, 2019
Ep #22 - How To Become A Master Calibrator
In this episode, we breakdown what it takes to be a Master Calibrator. Calibration in NLP is the ability to observe the full measure of communication in others. Calibration typically involves taking notice of verbal and non-verbal cues. Listen in to this show if you want to learn what it takes to build exceptional calibration skills.
Aug 27, 2019
Ep #21 - The NLP Presupposed Principles of Excellent Communication
NLP has a set of presupposed principles that must be observed in order for NLP itself to be a working model in the pursuit of enhancing our human experience. We have spent a series of podcast episodes diving into these NLP presuppositions. In this episode, we explain how powerful the presuppositions surrounding communication can be in our lives.
Aug 14, 2019
Ep #20 - The NLP Presuppositions That Support Change
In this episode, we are uncovering the NLP presuppositions that support change. The fact is we all go through change, whether it be on purpose in the form of a goal or when we change inadvertently. NLP had defined a set of principles that promote positive and long-lasting change. Be sure to tune in to this show so you can get a better understanding of these transformational NLP presuppositions.
Aug 6, 2019
Ep #19 - Behavioral Presuppositions in NLP
In this episode, we discuss the NLP presuppositions that revolve around behavior. NLP presuppositions are assumed truths if NLP itself is to be a working model. The NLP presuppositions are powerfull and effective words to live by. Listen in to learn more about the behavioral-based presuppositions defined by NLP.
Jul 23, 2019
Ep #18 - The Map Is Not The Territory
It's here folks! The most profound NLP presupposition is finally the topic of discussion on The Brain Language Podcast. The map is not the territory is the foundational belief of which NLP principles and process are built upon. This presupposition has a slew of implications about how our minds operate within the world that opens up unlimited potential for personal growth. Tune in to get an enhanced comprehension of this wonderful topic.
Jul 10, 2019
Ep #17 - The Blueprint of Language
In this episode, we work to explain the structure of language and communication. Our communication typically has a surface and deeper meaning that is made up of linguistic presuppositions. Often, the nature of assumptions and inferences we make can lead to miscommunications and negative experiences. When we understand the meta model of language we can then improve how we communicate. This topic is one of the more complex studied within NLP and this episode is a great ice breaker into the study of language.
Jun 25, 2019
Ep #16 - Words Mean Things
In this episode, we discuss how the use of language can lead to misunderstandings and what we can do about to improve it. Communication tends to be a poor form of communication because it is secondary to our behaviors. Ambiguity can kill a conversation, tune in to learn how to eliminate confusion and enhance your communications with others.
Jun 11, 2019
Ep #15 - How Does Your Mind Represent Reality?
In this episode, we explain the representational systems defined in NLP. We use words as symbols to represent the experience we perceive via our five senses. The words we lean on to describe our experience play a huge role in our understanding and communication. Be sure to listen in on this show to get a better idea of how you can benefit from understanding your representational systems better!
Jun 4, 2019
Ep #14 - Interview with Jason Botts
In this episode, we bring on Jason Botts as our first guest to be interviewed on the show. Jason is a former 15 year MLB Pro turned mindset coach who focuses on helping athletes enhance their inner game. He is a Master Practitioner graduate of NLP Training Concepts and has worked with Susan to hone his skills as a human performance coach. Join us as we explore Jason's approach to helping the mindset of young athletes.
May 28, 2019
Ep #13 - Perceptual Positions in NLP
In this episode, we dive into the NLP concept of Perceptual Positions. By now, you've likely heard the expression, “to walk a mile in the other person's shoes?” Well, that’s what perceptual positions is in NLP plus so much more. Seeing, hearing, and feeling the perspective of others has a structure. Listen in to better understand perceptual positions and how applying this process can dramatically improve your communication.
May 21, 2019
Ep #12 - Choose Your Own Adventure vs Trusting The Process
In this episode, we visit another Meta Program that is known in NLP as Options and Procedures. We all have patterns of language and behavior that we subconsciously use to navigate the world. While they are contextual and vary from person to person, we tend to gravitate towards having choices or following guidelines. Listen in as we discuss the characteristics of both patterns.
May 14, 2019
Ep #11 - From Avoiding Pain to Pursuing Pleasure
In this episode, we dive into the language and behavior patterns of motivation. When it comes to our Meta Programs, or subconscious patterns, we either move away from pain or toward pleasure when in regard to pursuing a goal. We dissect all of the traits and implications that surround both of these patterns.
May 7, 2019
Ep #10 - How to Create a Successful Life
In this episode, we discuss what success means in the context of life and how we can create our successes. Success is an incredibly ambiguous term, and its meaning varies depending on so many factors. One thing is for sure; we are all on a personal journey and are fully capable of creating success for ourselves.
Apr 30, 2019
Ep #09 - Why Don't People Change?
In this episode, we address the question of why don't people change. While there are many different reasons people refrain from change, there are some universal characteristics. We discuss the motivations behind avoiding change and the nature of change itself.
Apr 23, 2019
Ep #08 - Becoming A Jedi Mind Master
In this episode, we talk about what it takes to obtain more control over your own mind. Our brain is the most powerful tool on the planet. The mind is much like a garden in that it can reap us beauty and benefit. But, similarly to a garden, if left unkept it will grow weeds and produce more problems than anything else. Tune in if you'd like to learn some of the tools NLP provides in growing your mind garden.
Apr 16, 2019
Ep #07 - Defining Insanity: Why We Do the Same Thing and Expect Different Results
In this episode, we discuss what causes us to keep doing the same thing even though it doesn’t work. It has been said that the definition of insanity is to repeat the same thing over and over and expect different results. NLP offers some insight into why we do this and practical solutions for change.
Apr 9, 2019
Ep #06 - The Foundation of Powerful Communication
In this episode we discuss rapport and how it is the foundation of powerful communication. Rapport with ourselves and others is a precursor to success and gives you the ability to navigate this world with greater ease. The quality of our communication has a direct effect on the quality of our lives. If you want to improve relationships in either the personal or professional climate, tune in to this episode to get some useful tools to do just that.
Apr 2, 2019
Ep #05 - What Causes Us to Think People are Idiots
This episode is actually about miscommunications. We breakdown how mishaps in communication with others often cause us to think that people are idiots. While this may be true in some cases, more often than not people are not idiots and there is merely a miscommunication taking place. We dissect the nature of miscommunication and what may cause it.
Mar 26, 2019
Ep #04 - Setting Strong Boundaries
In this episode we discuss how boundaries have an effect on our lives. Everyone talks about boundaries; almost no one tells you what they are, how to set them, what to do if someone violates them. Setting strong boundaries will help you stand up for yourself, stop agreeing to do things you really don't want to do, stop being so sensitive and reactive, and start feeling less guilty about putting your own needs first. It's a part of the process of defining yourself and what is acceptable to you.
Mar 19, 2019
Ep #03 - The Power in a Well-Formed Outcome
In this episode of The Brain Language Podcast, we explain the power in having a Well-Formed Outcome. The Well-Formed Outcome is one of the organizing principles of NLP. Defining your outcome in terms of the way you would like to see things happen will increase the potential of it becoming a reality. In order to apply the NLP model, a person must first have an outcome. Knowing your outcome is the best place to start when you want to make a change.
Mar 12, 2019
Ep #02 - Introduction to NLP
This episode of The Brain Language Podcast is all about Neuro-Linguistic Programming. "What is NLP?" is too common of a question these days. One reason for that is probably because the answer is as deep as a well. NLP is a very expansive topic that genuinely cannot be covered in one episode. Which is precisely why we want to do an NLP themed podcast. This is just the tip of the iceberg; stay tuned to learn what NLP can do for you!
Mar 5, 2019
Ep #01 - Meet the Show
In this episode Susan Stageman and James Lusk introduce themselves and the show. Susan is the President and Principal Trainer of NLP Training Concepts and is Certified through the Society of Neurolinguistic Programming. She has been teaching NLP skills to small business owners, project managers, entrepreneurs and professionals since 1989. James is Susan's eager young padawan who wants to follow in her footsteps in helping people improve their lives with NLP. They hope to introduce golden nuggets of NLP knowledge in their show The Brain Language Podcast.
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