The Secret of Getting Rid of Problems 

How to find solutions from problems

Author: Vahid Zekavati

Copyright: NLP Radio

Introduction: 

Have you ever wondered why when problems come your way, you feel like you’re stuck in an endless quagmire? Have you noticed that the more you think about your problem, the deeper you sink into despair and exhaustion? This is a phenomenon that most of us face, but would you believe me if I told you that the key to solving this problem is in your own hands?

Imagine that for a moment you get rid of all those negative thoughts and negative energies that have involved you. Imagine that instead of focusing on what is bothering you, all your mind and energy is focused on something that can move you forward. Instead of wallowing in negative thoughts, you’ll find yourself in a new world, one where solutions reveal themselves and hope and energy suddenly come alive within you.

This book is your journey into an unknown world, where you will learn how to focus on what can pull you out of the quagmire instead of drowning in problems. In the chapters of this book, you’ll learn how to free your mind from negative thoughts and move toward solutions, hope, motivation, and energy. The moment you decide to shift your focus, your world will change in ways you can’t imagine.

We all have problems, but have you ever wondered why some people find incredible strength in the face of problems and others get lost in the same problems? The secret of this difference is not in problems, but in our way of thinking. Those who have been able to move from problems to solutions have been able to find new energy and move towards success because of their change of focus from problems to solutions.

You can do this too. In order to succeed in this path, you must prepare your mind to accept this change. Let me guide you in this direction. In this book, I’ll teach you how to shift from focusing on problems to focusing on solutions. You will learn how to draw from within yourself an infinite strength to face problems.

Each chapter of this book will take you one step closer to achieving this change. In these chapters, you will come across stories of people who have been able to transform their lives by shifting their focus from problems to solutions. You will see how you can turn every crisis into an opportunity for growth. These stories will motivate you to take a step in this direction yourself.

When you pay attention to this book and focus on learning this great secret, you will see that all the problems that are in front of you will no longer seem like insurmountable obstacles. Instead of giving up on problems, you will look at the solutions and realize that there are countless ways to tackle the challenges ahead of you.

From the moment you start this book, your mind will be seriously challenged. Many questions will form in your mind, questions that will lead you to continue the path and discover solutions. You will gradually realize that you don’t need to be in the negative and misleading space of problems. This book will lead you to a new path, a path where you will find yourself free from negative thoughts and despair.

All the chapters in this book will help you focus on solutions. As long as you understand this secret, you will see that your life will change in an instant. You don’t need to engage in those negative thoughts anymore. With every page you turn, you will enter a new world. A world where you overcome problems and find peace, motivation and endless energy.

Are you ready to start your journey? Are you ready to free your mind and move towards solutions? If your answer is yes, then this book is written for you. Step by step, we will accompany you to step into a new world of solutions, hope and endless energy. This journey is the beginning of an inner transformation. Are you ready to start?

Chapter 1: The vicious circle of focusing on the problem

Everything starts from one point, from the moment you open your eyes and realize that there is a problem in your life. A problem that may be in your mind for days, months or even years, takes your energy, and plunges you into the darkness of despair. But have you ever wondered why the more you think about it, the less you find a way to solve it? Why do you only get more tired and frustrated when you try to find a solution? Why is it that the more you talk about the problem, the more you drown in it?

In the human mind, there is an invisible but powerful mechanism that keeps you connected to what you are paying attention to. The mind is like a cruel mirror, if you see a problem in it, it will reflect the same problem bigger and clearer. The more you focus on the shortcomings, difficulties and obstacles, the more real and heavy you will make them. This is a truth that many people never realize, and this is exactly why many of them stay stuck in a vicious cycle for years, a cycle that we call the “Vicious Cycle of Problem Focus”.

Many people’s lives are nothing but endless repetition of an old pattern: waking up with worries, drowning in negative thoughts, revisiting problems and trying in vain to find a way that seems to never exist. This is the moment you fall into a trap without even realizing it. You may feel that you have to think more, you have to know more about the problem, you have to analyze all the details, but this is exactly the point where failure begins. You are caught in a mental trap that has trapped thousands of other people.

But how to get out of this vicious circle? How can you stop a mind that is constantly analyzing and analyzing problems? How can you find a real solution without drowning in fear and worry? This is what successful people are aware of, but the majority of people never learn.

The main secret is: Your mind enhances exactly what you give it energy. If you focus on the problems, your brain will find thousands of reasons to make things harder. If you focus on not having money, you will not see money making opportunities. If you don’t think about motivation, you will ignore even the best opportunity in front of you. This mental mechanism acts like a lens that only shows you what you focus on. So, what should you change?

Imagine a person stuck in the middle of a swamp. The more he struggles, the more he sinks. This is exactly what happens when you focus on problems. You want to get out of the swamp, but the more you think about your situation, the more you sink. The only way out is to look away from the problem instead of fighting it and focus on the way out.

The moment you separate your mind from the problem, the moment you stop complaining and worrying in vain, a new window opens to you. This is an immutable law. When you learn to free your mind from conflict with the problem, you will come up with solutions that you never thought existed.

This is the truth that successful people have discovered. They know that fighting problems only makes them stronger, so they focus on what they want instead. They focus their minds on opportunities, on positive outcomes, and on paths that lead to success.

But many people never get out of this trap because their minds are used to it. They are caught up in the illusion of solving the problem, but in reality, they are just repeating the same old thoughts. If you want to get out of this cycle, you must first break your mental patterns. You have to learn how to use your mind to solve problems, rather than letting your mind hold you back.

Imagine for a moment that every time you face a problem, instead of wallowing in it, you immediately turn your attention to solutions. Imagine that every time you felt hopeless, you trained your mind to look for opportunities instead of wallowing in fear. This is the change that can change your life.

After this moment, make a new decision. Decide not to be a slave to your problems. Decide to focus on the solutions instead of the obstacles. This change in mindset is the point that takes you out of the vicious circle of focusing on the problem and leads you to a new world full of endless opportunities.

Chapter 2: The power of changing the perspective: from problem to solution

Every person faces problems and challenges many times during his life that stop him on his way. Some of these problems are apparently so big and complicated that one feels that there is no solution for them. This is the moment when the difference between successful and unsuccessful people is revealed. Some people give up in the face of problems, allow their minds to be completely consumed by difficulties and obstacles, and eventually stop moving. But on the other hand, there is another group of people who, instead of focusing on the problem, direct all their energy and attention towards finding a solution. They change their perspective and instead of being trapped in the darkness of problems, they turn on a light in their minds to find a way out.

The human mind is like a camera lens. It makes whatever it is focused on bigger and clearer. When you focus all your attention on the problem, the problem seems bigger, more complicated and more intractable in your mind. In this state, your mind acts like a magnetic field that attracts all the information, thoughts and experiences that are aligned with the problem and provides you with it. The more you think about the problem, the less solutions your mind will give you. But the moment you decide to change your perspective and instead of focusing on the problem, put all your energy into finding a solution, an amazing change happens in your inner world.

It all depends on your perspective. Two people can be in a completely similar situation, but one of them feels that there is no hope left and the other in the same situation, sees hidden opportunities that can lead him to success. This is the main difference between successful people and ordinary people. Successful people have learned how to free their mind from focusing on problems and focus it on solutions. Instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?” They ask themselves, “How can I solve this problem?” This simple change in the type of question makes a huge difference in the results.

One of the best examples of this is people who, in difficult economic conditions, instead of complaining about their situation, start finding ways to earn money. Instead of spending all their energy worrying about not having money, they direct their minds to finding new opportunities. While many people give up in difficult economic conditions and consider themselves victims of circumstances, successful people have learned that every crisis has opportunities hidden in it that only those with the right perspective are able to see.

To better understand this, imagine that you are in a dark room with only a flashlight in your hand. If you point this flashlight towards the closed door of the room, all you will see is the closed door. But if you turn this light around, you might find a window that is your way out. Your mind works exactly the same way. If all you see is the problem, you won’t come up with a solution. But if you change your perspective and look for alternative paths, your mind will automatically start finding new solutions.

Changing your perspective is a skill, a skill that can change your life. To strengthen this skill, you must first become aware of how your thoughts work. Every time you face a problem, ask yourself, “Am I really looking for a solution, or am I just focusing on the problem?” This simple question can completely change your perspective. In the next step, try to consciously separate your mind from the problem and focus on finding possible solutions.

One of the effective techniques in this field is to ask yourself: “If someone else were in this situation, what would they do?” This technique forces your mind to get out of the frame of your own thoughts and look at the subject from a new angle. Often times, the answers that come to your mind in these situations are solutions that you were not able to see before.

Life is a series of choices, and choosing how to look at problems is one of the most important decisions you can make. If you learn how to focus on opportunities instead of obstacles, nothing can stop you. Every challenge that comes your way will only be seen as an opportunity to learn and grow. Successful people are those who have not only understood this truth, but have made it a part of their thinking pattern.

From now on, decide to stop being a victim of your problems. Decide to focus on what you can control instead of worrying about what you can’t control. This change in perspective can have such a profound impact on your life that you never imagined. Solutions are always around you, you just need to look away from the darkness of problems and see them.

Chapter 3: Focus on solutions: Increased energy and motivation

The human mind is a powerful machine that can work in two completely different ways. Either it can be like a prison that keeps you bound by problems and difficulties, or it can be like a gate that leads you to countless solutions and opportunities. This is a choice that you face every day, every moment and every challenge that comes before you.

People who focus on solutions rather than problems have access to an unlimited source of energy and motivation. But why does this happen? Why is it that when your mind is focused on problems, you feel tired, hopeless and unmotivated, but when you turn your attention to solutions, suddenly a new force ignites in you?

The answer to this question lies in how the brain works. The human brain is a complex and extremely intelligent system that always seeks to maintain survival and reduce mental stress. When you focus on a problem, your brain interprets this problem as a threat and goes into defensive mode. In this case, the level of stress and anxiety in your body increases, stress hormones such as cortisol are released, and your mind starts generating negative thoughts. These negative thoughts in turn reduce your mental and physical energy, disturb your concentration and destroy your motivation.

But on the other hand, when you focus on solutions, your brain receives different messages. In this case, instead of the brain being in a defensive and stressed state, it enters a creative and searching state. Instead of releasing stress hormones, the brain starts producing dopamine, a substance that boosts feelings of pleasure, hope, and motivation. This is what separates successful people from others. They have learned how to free their minds from problems and direct them towards finding solutions.

A simple example to better understand this is to imagine driving on a winding road. Suppose you are driving on an unknown road and suddenly you hit a big obstacle. At this moment, you have two choices. You can focus all your attention on the obstacle, constantly telling yourself how unexpected it is, how it blocked your path and how it stopped you from continuing. But this way of thinking will not help you. You will still stop at the same point.

But if, instead, you immediately start looking for alternative routes, if you take your eyes off the obstacle and look around, you will probably find that there is a side path next to the obstacle that can lead you to your destination. This is the power of focusing on solutions. Instead of getting stuck in a mental rut, you find a way out of it.

Focusing on solutions will not only lift you out of frustration and stagnation, but will also increase your energy levels surprisingly. When you start finding solutions, a new power is activated within you. You feel that you are in control of the situation again, you are no longer a victim of circumstances, and this feeling of power gives you tremendous motivation.

Many people think that motivation must be given to them from outside. They are waiting for the situation to improve, for someone to come and give them hope, or for something special to happen to motivate them. But the truth is that motivation comes from within you, and one of the most powerful ways to motivate yourself is to shift your focus from the problem to the solution.

When you focus on a problem, your mind is filled with thoughts like “I can’t,” “It’s impossible,” “It’s too hard,” and “There’s no way.” But when you turn your attention to solutions, your thoughts change. Instead of saying, “I can’t,” you ask yourself, “How can I?” Instead of saying, “It’s impossible,” you ask yourself, “Is there a way that I haven’t thought of yet?”

Your mind is designed in such a way that when you ask yourself these kinds of questions, it immediately starts searching for answers. This search takes you out of the state of passivity and stagnation and into the state of creativity, effort and movement. The more solutions you find, the higher your energy level and motivation, and this creates a positive cycle.

From now on, whenever you face a challenge, instead of letting the problem occupy your mind and thoughts, make a conscious decision to focus on the solutions. This may seem difficult at first because your mind is used to focusing on problems. But the more you practice this skill, the stronger you will become, and over time, this way of thinking will become a natural part of your personality.

Your life is a reflection of the thoughts you go through in your mind every day. If you want your life to be full of energy, hope and motivation, you must learn how to direct your thoughts in the right direction. The only thing standing between you and success is your focus and perspective. If you change this perspective, everything will change. Solutions are always around you, you just have to learn how to see them.

Chapter 4: Law of energy: lack or excess?

Do you ever feel like your energy is depleted? Have you ever felt that you have no strength to continue, as if a heavy burden has been placed on your shoulders and no matter how hard you try, it is as if you are sinking into a swamp that is dragging you down more and more every moment? Where does this feeling come from? Why are some people always full of energy, even in the most difficult situations, but others, as soon as they face the smallest obstacle, their energy subsides and they feel tired, hopeless and unmotivated? Where does this difference come from?

The answer lies in your mindset. Your mind is a huge powerhouse of energy, but this powerhouse is activated only when you understand its rules. If you don’t know these rules, your energy will decrease, your motivation will disappear, and you will find yourself in a situation as if there is no way out of problems. But if you understand these rules and use them correctly, your energy level will increase amazingly, your ability to solve problems will increase and the feeling of lightness, strength and motivation will ignite inside you.

One of the most important laws of the mind is this: your energy goes where you focus your attention. If you focus on problems, your energy will decrease. If you think about shortcomings, difficulties, obstacles and failures, you will feel tired, despair and weak. But if you focus your attention on new solutions, opportunities and paths, your energy will increase. This law cannot be changed. You cannot ignore this law. Just as you cannot ignore the gravity of the earth.

The human mind is like a fertile land. If you sow negative seeds in this land, poisonous plants will grow. But if you plant positive seeds, you will have green and fruitful trees. The only difference is in the choice of seeds you plant. Your energy works in the same way. If you focus all your attention on problems and shortcomings, you will feel a lack of energy. But if you focus on solutions and ways of progress, you will suddenly realize that your energy has multiplied.

Imagine that you are standing in a dark room. In this room, there is a power switch. If you stay in the dark and keep asking yourself why is this room dark, why can’t I see anything, why can’t I move, nothing will change. But if instead of focusing on the darkness, you look for the power switch and press it, everything will change in an instant. Darkness will give way to light and you will see that you had no limits from the beginning, you just needed to change your perspective.

The same thing happens in your mind. When you only focus on problems, you plunge your mind into darkness. But when you focus on the solutions instead of the problem, as if you turned on the light switch, suddenly everything changes. Your mind becomes clearer, new ideas come to you and you feel that your energy has multiplied.

Many people think that their lack of energy is due to external conditions. They say: “If the economy was better, I would have more energy. If my boss behaved better, I would be more motivated. If my family understood me, I would feel better.” But the truth is that your energy comes from within, not from outside. If you have the right mindset, if you can direct your mind correctly, you can maintain your energy level even in the most difficult situations.

Now an important question: if your energy depends on your attention, then how can you direct your attention properly?

The answer to this question is simple: you need to learn how to focus on the things that increase your energy, not on the things that decrease it. You must learn to focus on abundance instead of scarcity. Instead of focusing on problems, on solutions. Instead of focusing on the failures, focus on the lessons you learned from them.

Whenever you feel your energy draining, ask yourself, “What am I focusing on right now? Am I focusing on the problem or the solution? Am I thinking about the shortcomings or the opportunities? Is my mind preoccupied with obstacles or finding new directions?”

These simple questions can change your life. They can take you out of the state of weakness and lack of motivation and lead you to the path of strength and motivation.

Your mind is like a magnifying glass. Everything you put under a magnifying glass magnifies. If you put your problems under the microscope, they will become bigger and heavier. But if you put the solutions under the microscope, they will become clearer and clearer.

Your life is a reflection of your way of thinking. If you learn how to manage your energy, nothing can stop you. You will no longer need to wait for external conditions to change. You will become a source of energy and strength.

Remember that lack of energy is nothing more than an illusion. This illusion is created when your mind goes in the wrong direction. If you change the direction of your mind, if you learn how to focus on the right things, then you will see that there is no shortage. You always have the energy to succeed. All you have to do is turn on the power switch, push away the darkness and let the light illuminate your path.

Chapter 5: How to quickly get from despair to hope?

Have you ever experienced moments when you feel like everything is over? It is as if you are walking in an endless path of darkness, where there is no opening of light, and every step you take, it is as if the weight of despair is placed on you more and more. Where does this feeling come from? Why does your mind sometimes give in to problems and despair creeps into you? Why do some people quickly come out of the heart of darkness, but others sink into it? What is the secret of this difference?

It all comes down to a simple but amazing principle: where your focus is, that’s where your energy flows. If you focus on disappointment, the feeling of failure, weakness and inability will take root in you. But if you direct your attention towards the solutions, suddenly a spark of hope will ignite inside you. This is a law, an undeniable truth that can transform your life.

Imagine that you are sitting in a dark room. Disappointment is like darkness, it fills the entire space of your mind, so that you see nothing but blackness. But the moment you decide to press the power switch, everything changes. Suddenly, light covers everything and there is no trace of darkness left. Hope is the light, but to turn it on, you have to change the direction of your mind.

Now the important question is how to quickly get from despair to hope? How can the mind be programmed so that as soon as a problem is encountered, instead of drowning in negative thoughts, it moves towards solutions? The answer lies in the techniques that can direct your focus from despair to hope in the least possible time.

The first and most important principle is to realize that despair is just a mental illusion. Your mind acts like a magnifying glass. If you focus on problems, you will see them as bigger than they are. But if you focus on the solutions instead, you will find them clearer and more accessible. Despair starts from the place where your mind imagines the problems as huge and unsolvable. But if you can break this pattern, everything will change in an instant.

One of the fastest ways to get out of frustration is to immediately change the language and internal dialogues. When you feel down, pay attention to the words that repeat in your mind. Do you keep telling yourself that this problem cannot be solved? that you are incapable That there is no hope? If so, then you are building a wall of despair with your words. But if you change these words right now, if instead of “I can’t” you say “I haven’t found the solution yet, but I will find it soon”, if instead of “there is no way” you say “I just haven’t seen the right way yet”, this small change will change the direction of your mind.

Another method is to immediately change the physical state. Your mind and body have a deep connection with each other. If you are disappointed, your body must be in a state that strengthens this feeling. Your shoulders may be slumped, your breathing may be shallow, your gaze may be down. But if you stand straight right now, pull your shoulders back, take a deep breath, and look up, your brain will get the message that you are strong, that you can get through this, that there is still hope.

Now an important question: if our brain can activate hope through language and body posture, then why don’t most people do it? The reason is simple: they are used to these negative patterns. Your mind is like a forest path. If you keep crossing a path, that path becomes smooth and clear. But if you want to create a new path, you must first pass through tall grass and trees to create a new path. Your thinking habits work in the same way. If you have been used to thinking of despair in the face of problems for years, changing this habit requires practice. But once you create this new path, your brain learns to look directly for the solution instead of getting frustrated.

Another powerful technique to get out of frustration quickly is to shift your focus to the present moment. When most people feel down, they are actually thinking about the past or the future. They either think about past failures or fear an unknown future. But in the present moment, in this very moment that you are breathing, is there really a problem that cannot be solved? Instead of worrying about the future, if you focus all your attention on finding one small step in the present moment, your mind will quickly drift away from despair.

Your life is shaped by where you place your focus. If you learn how to control your mind, nothing can stop you. You will learn how to see the light in the heart of darkness. You will learn how to keep hope alive even in the most difficult situations. And once you master this skill, you’ll never let frustration hold you back.

Now, right now, ask yourself: do I want to stay in this darkness, or do I want to flip the switch and see the light? The choice is yours. But remember that every moment you waste in despair is a moment you could have used to build a better future. So choose, and make a new path in your mind right now.

Chapter 6: Roots of Problems: Why some people can’t overcome problems?

Why do some people always face the same problems in their lives? Why do some people remain in the same place even after years of effort? Why can some people never get over crises, while others use those same crises as a bridge to climb to a higher level? Have you ever thought about the fact that the root of the problems you experience time and time again may be hidden somewhere that you have never paid attention to? Could it be that all these problems are not due to external circumstances, but due to a repetitive mental pattern that keeps you on the same path?

The main problem is that most people, when faced with a challenge, spend all their energy and attention on the problem instead of focusing on the solution. They constantly think about the problem, talk about it, review it over and over in their mind, and the more they pay attention to it, the bigger and more complicated the problem becomes. The human mind is like a lens that magnifies everything it focuses on. If all your focus is on the problems, then you will unconsciously reinforce them and as a result, even if a solution is available, you will never be able to see it.

The reason some people never overcome problems is because their minds are programmed to reproduce problems constantly. This happens because of a pattern that has been formed in their minds for years. For example, imagine that a child grows up in a family where his parents constantly complain about financial problems, are dissatisfied with life and constantly talk about not having money, economic problems, and hardships in life. This child learns from the very beginning that the world is a difficult place, that financial problems are inevitable and that one should always complain about not having money. He grows up with this belief, and even when he reaches adulthood and finds a job, his financial problems do not leave him. He may have a good income, but he is still stuck in the same old mental patterns, so he behaves in a way that keeps financial problems in his life. He may spend money irrationally, or he may always pursue opportunities that lead to failure because his mind is conditioned by financial problems.

The same pattern exists in many other aspects of life. Those who always face repeated problems in their relationships, those who constantly fail in their jobs, those who always feel dissatisfied and failed, they are all repeating mental patterns that are rooted in their past. If a person has learned from childhood that he should always be blamed, in adulthood he unconsciously creates conditions for others to blame him. If a person has learned that success is impossible for him, even if great opportunities are presented in front of him, he will ignore them or behave in such a way that they will disappear.

But why does the mind work this way? Why, when there is a problem, the mind keeps thinking about the problem instead of focusing on the solution? The answer lies in the way the unconscious mind works. The unconscious mind, unlike the conscious mind, always seeks survival and stability. For the unconscious mind, changing something is unfamiliar and dangerous. If you have been dealing with a problem for years, your unconscious mind has accepted that problem as a natural state. Any change, even if positive, is considered a threat to the unconscious mind, because the mind prefers to remain in the same familiar state.

This is why many people, even though they know they need to change, still don’t take any action. They are involved in problems that are familiar to them. They may complain about them, but at the same time, they are used to them. Their mind has become dependent on this situation and considers any change as a risk.

But what is the solution? How can you get past these repetitive mental patterns and focus on solutions instead of focusing on problems? The first step is to become aware of how your mind works. If you can pause for a moment and realize that you are focusing on the problem, you have taken the first step towards change. You have to ask yourself: Are these thoughts running through my mind leading me to a solution or just reinforcing the problem in my mind?

The second step is to consciously change your focus. Every time your mind wanders to a problem, you need to remind yourself that the only thing that matters is finding a solution. The solution may not be immediately obvious, but the only way to find it is to focus your mind on the solution instead of the problem.

The third step is to change your surroundings. Your mind acts like a magnet, and if you are in an environment full of pessimistic, negative and problem-oriented people, your mind will also be drawn in the same direction. But if you place yourself among people who focus on solutions, this pattern will gradually change in your mind.

The fourth step is to examine your old beliefs. If you have always been involved in similar problems, ask yourself: What beliefs are there in me that have created these problems? Am I unknowingly dependent on these problems? Do I believe that success is not possible for me? Do I think I must always suffer? Any belief that caused these problems must be identified and then replaced with new and powerful beliefs.

And finally, the most important thing is to know that changing mental patterns takes time, but it is not impossible. If you have been dealing with similar problems for years, it may take some time for your mind to get used to the new path, but if you constantly shift your focus from the problem to the solution, your subconscious mind will also accept this new pattern. And when that happens, no problem can hold you back. You will learn how to build a bridge to growth from every crisis and you will never be stuck in problems again

Chapter 7: “The Art of Looking Ahead: Focusing on the Answers”

Life is a flow, a constant movement in which every moment that passes cannot be returned. But instead of going with this flow, many people lock themselves in the past. Their minds are constantly occupied with problems that are over, but they are still trapped in them. They are still revisiting, retelling and re-experiencing the same events as if to draw a different conclusion from what happened. These people look backwards. They focus on things they have no control over. While the solution is always in another point: looking forward, looking for answers.

The human mind has great power. If you put this power in the right direction, you can get any answer you need. But if you engage in an endless cycle of negative thoughts, if you keep telling yourself why did this happen, why did he say that, why did I do that, you’re actually just digging deeper into the problem. You can never move forward while looking back. This is a law. This is an undeniable principle. The more you focus on the problem, the more you sink into it. But if you take your eyes off the problem and look at the solutions, suddenly a new path opens.

Focusing on the answers means accepting that problems are always there, but you’re not going to dwell on them. You are going to pass them. This is exactly the difference between successful and unsuccessful people. Unsuccessful people, when faced with a challenge, constantly think, “Why did this happen to me?” Why did this happen? And as a result, their mind gets involved in despair and worry. But successful people know that the right question isn’t, “Why did this happen?” Rather, the right question is, “What can I do now?” This small change in outlook makes a huge difference in life.

Whenever you face a problem in life, set your mind on the answers. Imagine that you are in the middle of a turbulent sea. If you keep looking at the waves, if you only think about how big the storm is, you will eventually drown. But if you look for a way to shore, if you focus on the boat you can build or the waves you can ride, you will have hope for salvation. This is what life teaches you. You can sink into problems, or make them a bridge for growth and progress.

Forward-looking people know that no problem lasts forever. Everything is changing. If you are in a difficult situation now, this situation will also change, but on one condition: you have to change your perspective. You have to ask yourself: “What is the lesson in this problem? What can I learn from this experience? How can I use this to build a better future?” This is the kind of attitude that distinguishes successful people from others.

Your mind is like a flashlight. If you shine it on problems, you will only see more darkness. But if you shine it on the solutions, suddenly the path will be clear. The choice is yours. Every moment you spend in life, you can choose to focus on the problems or the answers. But know that your choice will determine the path of your life.

The art of looking ahead means understanding the fact that life is always moving. You cannot change the past, but you can create the future. And this future is built only when you learn to look away from obstacles and focus on possible paths. If you want to grow, if you want to succeed, if you want to get rid of the cycle of problems, you have only one way: change your perspective. Focus on the answers.

Chapter 8: The beginning of transformation: change of focus, change of life

Your life is a reflection of your focus. Everything you experience in life is a direct result of what you put your mind to. Think for a moment. Have you ever noticed that when you think about your problems, more problems come to you? Have you seen how when you pay attention to difficulties, feelings of weakness, helplessness and despair take root in you? But on the other hand, has it ever happened that in the most difficult situation, you just change your mind for a moment, just for a moment you think that maybe there is a way, maybe there is something in this situation that you can use to your advantage? And suddenly, like a small spark, a window of hope has opened? This is the miracle of shifting focus.

Your focus makes your destiny. People who have managed to rise from the lowest points in their lives have one thing in common: they have learned to shift their focus. Instead of focusing on what they lost, they focused on what they could gain. Instead of drowning in problems, they have been looking for solutions. And this small change has changed their lives. This law is true for everyone. for you too

There are many stories of people who, in the worst possible circumstances, with a change in their outlook, a new path was opened in their lives. Imagine a man who is bankrupt. He has lost all his property. He has no house, no capital, no hope. If he focuses on his failures, all that awaits him is more disappointment and failure. But now imagine if instead of focusing on what he lost, he thought about what he could learn? What opportunities are still left for him? What small step can he take to open a new path for him? Do you see how a change in focus changes the course of life?

The same pattern has been repeated in the lives of thousands of people. A young woman who was plunged into darkness and sadness after an emotional breakdown, but one day decided to focus on building the future instead of dwelling on the past. Instead of asking why this happened, he asked himself: What can I learn now that this has happened? How can I use this experience to become stronger? And as soon as he changed his look, his life took a different color.

You too have had moments in your life when despair has engulfed you. The moments when you feel there is no way out. But if you look back carefully, you will see that there was always a way out, even in the most difficult situations. There has always been a moment in which, just by changing your perspective, you were able to get up and continue. These moments show your true strength.

Changing your life starts with changing your focus. But how to make this a habit? How can we consciously decide to focus on the answers instead of the problems? The first step is awareness. You have to watch your thoughts every moment. When you find yourself stuck in a cycle of worry and despair, stop yourself. Ask yourself: Are these thoughts that are running through my mind now, leading me to solve the problem or just drowning me in it? Do these thoughts make me stronger or weaker?

The next step is to change the direction of the mind. As soon as you notice that you are focusing on problems, consciously change your focus. If you think of a problem, ask yourself: What is the way to solve this problem? If you don’t know the answer, ask yourself: Who can help me find the answer? If you don’t have any ideas, ask yourself: What small thing can I do right now that will take me one step forward? These questions take your mind out of stagnation and put it on a path to think of solutions.

And finally, act. Knowing is not enough. Thinking of solutions is not enough. You must act. Even if it is a small action, even if it is just one step, this small step can be the beginning of a big change in your life.

Life is like a river that keeps flowing. If you try to stand against this flow, you will only tire yourself. But if you learn how to go with the flow, learn how to shift your focus from obstacles to possible paths, then life will be easier for you. Challenges will always be there, but it’s up to you how you choose to look at them. Do you see them as insurmountable obstacles, or opportunities for growth? The choice is yours.

Now, close your eyes for a moment and think about something that has been on your mind for a long time. to the problem that has caught you. Now, make a small change in your look. Ask yourself: If I were to use this problem as an opportunity, what would I learn from it? What is there in this situation that can benefit me? How can I use this situation to become stronger? And now, just for a moment, imagine that your whole life was built around this kind of look.

You can start this change right now. Decide that starting today, every time you face a challenge, instead of focusing on the problem, focus on the answers. It’s a small decision, but the consequences will be huge. And once you develop this habit, your life will never be the same again. This is the beginning of your transformation.

Chapter 9: Focusing on the solution: The key to returning to life

Close your eyes and imagine yourself in the middle of a violent storm for a moment. The wind is howling, the sky is dark, the rain is beating mercilessly on the ground. In the meantime, you stand, lost, scared, unable to find a way out. But now, imagine that your eyes suddenly catch a light in the distance. This light is the solution. The same path that will take you out of this storm. But this light is revealed only when you take your eyes off the intensity of the storm and look for a way out. Your life is the same. Problems will come your way like a merciless storm, but if you don’t change your focus, if you keep standing in the middle of the storm and think only of wind and rain, you will never find a way out.

Life is like a chessboard. Every move you make has a result. Some people just look back at the nuts and bolts they’ve lost and get lost in the nostalgia of what could have been. But chess champions only think about one thing: the next move. They don’t ask why this happened, why they lost the nuts, why the situation is not according to their wishes. They only ask: What should I do now? This is the fundamental difference between people who wallow in problems and those who find solutions.

Problems are an integral part of life. No one can escape from them. But what makes the difference is how you deal with them. People who focus on problems, get exhausted, lose their energy over time. But those who work on finding a solution instead of focusing on the problem quickly re-energize, regain their hope, and move step by step out of the crisis.

Imagine being in total darkness. If you only focus on the darkness, you will never find a way out. But if you start looking, if you try to find even the tiniest glimmer of light, then hope will return. The human brain is designed in such a way that when you think about a problem, it locks all your focus on that problem. This is a natural mechanism. But you have to learn to take control of this mechanism and direct it to your advantage. If you keep thinking about a problem, your mind is set to see only that problem. But if you ask yourself: what is the solution for this problem? Your mind quickly starts searching for answers. This is an immutable law. Whatever question you ask yourself, your mind will search for the answer. So, isn’t it better that instead of asking, “Why me? Why did this happen? Why am I so miserable?” Ask yourself: “How can I change this situation? What is there in this situation that I can use to my advantage? What is the first step I can take to get out of this crisis?”

There are many stories of people who have turned their lives around in the worst possible circumstances, just by changing their focus. A bankrupt person will not be able to get up if he focuses on how much he has lost. But if he asks himself, “How can I build a bridge to success from this failure?” Suddenly his mind starts moving in a new direction. A man who has lost his family due to a tragic accident, if he puts all his thoughts on the pain and suffering he suffered, he will drown in darkness. But if he decides to use this painful experience to help others, the course of his life will change.

Your mind is like a radio. If it is tuned to negative frequencies, you will only get sadness and despair. But if it is tuned to positive frequencies, solutions and hopes will be available to you.

Now ask yourself this question: What are you stuck on right now? What problem has captured your mind? Have you given all your attention and energy to this problem? Have you allowed your mind to sink into its darkness? If so, it’s time to change the frequency. Right now, ask yourself: What can I do that can be the first step to get out of this situation? Even if it is the smallest step, even if it seems insignificant, it is enough to start the movement. As you move, paths will be revealed. The solutions will show themselves. But as long as you stand and just watch the problem, nothing will change.

Focusing on the solution is the key to getting back to life. It’s a simple decision, but the difference it will make in your life is unimaginable. Every morning when you wake up, you can choose to start your day focusing on problems or focusing on answers. This is a choice that will shape your entire future.

Are you ready to make this change? Are you ready to free your mind from the prison of problems and direct it to the infinite world of solutions? So decide now. Decide to never, ever dwell on a problem that can be solved again. Always focus on the solution. Always look for a way out. Because as long as you think of solutions, no problem will be able to keep you in its chains. This is the law of life.

Chapter 10: From Crisis to Progress: The Last Step to Success

Everything in your life ends at this point. The moment you decide whether you want to stay in the crisis or pass it. The moment your destiny is determined, not by what happens to you, but by how you react to them. Everything you’ve learned so far, everything you’ve gone through, everything you’ve endured, all of it has brought you to where you are now. But the main question is: Is this the end of the road or the beginning of something bigger?

Crises always exist. There is always something that challenges you, there is always an obstacle that stands in your way, there is always a situation that can knock you down. But do crises really stop you, or are you letting yourself stop? This is a truth that successful people have understood: crises are not the end, but the beginning of great breakthroughs. But only those who have learned to change their perspective understand this opportunity.

Imagine for a moment that you are standing in total darkness, on a path where no light can be seen. If you panic, if you let despair overwhelm you, you will stay where you are. But if you decide to move, even if your first steps are shaky and uncertain, you will eventually find a way. This is what crises teach us: the only way out of the darkness is to move towards the light. And this light is nothing but focusing on the solution, finding a new path, and accepting that no obstacle can stop you from reaching your goal, unless you allow it.

The biggest mistake many people make is to see crises as irreparable failures. They think that if the conditions become difficult, if the path becomes difficult, it means that it is no longer possible to continue. But the truth is that crises are just points of change, signs that tell you: this path no longer works, you have to find a new way. But if you don’t change your perspective, if you keep focusing on the problems, if you let your mind get caught up in the difficulties, you will never see that there is a gateway to progress right there, right where you are standing.

The world always rewards those who do not give up in the most difficult moments. Read the life stories of successful people. All of them have been in a situation that seemed unbearable, but they have not given up, they have learned how to turn crises into opportunities. These people differ from others in only one thing: they have learned to spend their attention and energy on finding solutions, not on getting involved in problems.

Focusing on the solution is not just a simple recommendation, but a fundamental principle in success. If you want to progress in any situation, if you want to come out of any crisis stronger, you must make this principle the core of your thinking. You have to train your mind in such a way that when faced with a problem, instead of getting frustrated, it will look for an answer. It’s a practice, and like any skill, it requires constant practice. Every day, every moment, ask yourself: How can I solve this problem? How can I use these conditions to my advantage? What lesson lies in this crisis that can make me stronger? And when you ask yourself these questions, suddenly your mind starts to find the answers. And this small change in thinking can turn your life around.

The human mind is designed to expand what it focuses on. If you focus on problems, you will see them bigger. But if you focus on solutions, a power will be activated within you that will enable you to overcome any obstacle. This is a scientific and psychological fact. Your brain acts like a filter. If you tell it that there is no solution, it will devote all its attention to confirming this belief. But if you tell it that there is a solution and you can find it, then it will subconsciously start looking for it.

People who thrive in crises are those who have internalized this law. Instead of asking, “Why did this happen to me?”, they ask, “How can I make the most of this situation?” Instead of giving in to difficulties, they use them to grow. And this is what you have to learn.

This chapter is the end of this book, but the beginning of your change. Now it’s time to decide how you want to proceed. Do you want to be like you used to be, let crises stop you, keep your mind occupied with problems and feel powerless? Or do you want to see every crisis as an opportunity to grow, change your perspective, focus on solutions and become a person who not only goes through crises, but also grows and succeeds in them?

The decision is yours. But remember that every choice you make now will shape your future. Every thought you choose in this moment will determine your path. So, make up your mind right now, right now. Decide to never let your problems stop you again. Decide to always focus on solutions, in any situation, in any crisis. Because this is the only way that will lead you from crisis to progress, and from difficulty to success.

Conclusion: The secret of life is in your hands

Life is not a battlefield, it is a path. The path that you determine in every moment, in every decision, in every look. You decide whether to embrace problems or overcome them, whether to wallow in despair or embrace hope, whether to focus on crises or solutions. This book was a journey to discover the power that has always been inside you but maybe you were not aware of it until today. Let’s take a look back at everything we learned on this trip.

in First chapter: “Problems or opportunities? The choice is yours”You realized that problems are always there, but it is your perspective that makes your destiny. Do you see each obstacle as an insurmountable barrier or an opportunity for growth? Do you give in to challenges or do you learn that every problem has a hidden solution in its heart?

in Chapter 2: “The Power of Focus: Why Focusing on Problems Paralyzes You?”You learned that your mind works like a magnifying glass. Wherever you choose to look, there it grows. If you focus on problems, you will make them bigger and scarier. But if you focus all your mind on finding solutions, your brain will unconsciously find new ways to overcome obstacles.

in Chapter 3: “Why do most people stay in the cycle of problems?”, you realize that many people are so caught up in their problems that they can’t even see a way out of them. The reason for this is simple: instead of focusing on solutions, they keep going over the problems in their head. But you can be different. You can get out of this cycle.

in Chapter 4: “Energy Law: Shortage or Excess?”You realized that your energy depends on your way of thinking. Those who constantly think about problems lose energy, but those who think about solutions find more energy to move forward. Don’t you want to be in the second category?

in Chapter 5: “How to quickly get from despair to hope?”You’ve got tools to help you shift your focus immediately after encountering problems. You realized that just by changing your perspective, you can quickly get out of despair and get back to life.

in Chapter 6: “The Roots of Problems: Why Some People Can’t Overcome Problems?”You learned that many problems persist, not because of their severity, but because of our way of thinking. You now have the awareness that instead of being stuck in the past, you need to open your mind to accept solutions.

in Chapter 7: “The Art of Looking Ahead: Focusing on the Answers”, you realized that every problem has a lesson in it and if you focus on the answers instead of drowning in it, you can use every challenge for your growth.

in Chapter 8: “The Beginning of Transformation: Change of Focus, Change of Life”You’ve heard stories of people who have transformed their lives just by changing their focus. It showed that you can do it too, you just have to decide.

in Chapter 9: “Solution Focus: The Key to Returning to Life”, you realized that every time you shift your focus from problems to solutions, you are one step closer to a better life. This rule is simple, but powerful.

And finally, in Chapter 10: “From Crisis to Progress: The Last Step to Success”You learned that even in the most difficult situations, it is you who determines your destiny. No matter where you are in life now, you always have a choice: give up or get stronger? Stay or grow? Review the past or create a new future?

Now, the book is over, but your journey has just begun. These knowledges are only valuable when you apply them in your life. Right now, right now, choose to be different. Choose to focus on solutions. Choose to change your life. The power is in your hands. From this moment on, you are no longer the same person. You are a person who knows how to change the course of his life. move now The world is waiting for you.