Book title:
What secrets are hidden around you?
Author: Vahid Zekavati
Copyright: NLP Radio
Introduction:
Have you ever felt that your life is influenced by others? Have you ever thought that maybe your choices in life are caused by something beyond your will? What you perceive as your personal decisions may actually be the result of unconscious influences from those around you. But how is it possible that the people around you have such a significant influence on your decisions and feelings? Can you get rid of these negative influences? And if so, how?
In this book, you will enter a world where not only your decisions and thoughts, but also your destiny is in your hands. As you walk this path, you will learn how your environment, the people around you, and even the words and actions of others can create hidden and deep changes in you. But ultimately, you are the only one who can decide where these changes will lead.
In the early chapters, you’ll be introduced to a concept you may never have considered before: your environment can shape your life, but how? This chapter immerses you in the hidden world of social influence and shows how even the simplest behaviors and thoughts of those around you can have a profound effect on you. But how do these subconscious influences penetrate your mind? By discovering these secrets, you will gain the power to confront and change them.
Next, you will discover another world where you learn how to free yourself from the negative influences around you and use your power to create a new reality. The techniques of hypnosis and subtle psychology in these chapters give you the power to not only escape the negative influence of others, but also to find peace and strength in environments that are especially challenging for you. how This question leads to answers that are both profound and surprising.
In this book, you’ll learn things you may not have seen anywhere else—information that can truly change your life. In each chapter, a veil of secrets is lifted that guides you to an important turning point in your life. From this moment on, you recognize yourself as someone who is capable of making informed choices. And now, the big question will arise: Are you ready to take your destiny into your own hands?
Continue reading this book to open every door that is closed to you and hinders your success and inner peace. When you enter this new world, nothing will stop you from achieving your goals. Are you ready to start this exciting journey? Join me to the end of this book and step into a world of new power and awareness.
Chapter 1: “Is Your Life Being Written by Others?”
Every moment of your life—your decisions, your choices, and even your daily emotions—is shaped by something unknown and mysterious. You may ask yourself: Are all these choices and paths ahead really under your control? Are you really making as informed a decision as you think you are? Or is your life somehow influenced by people you never even thought about? These people, around you, by your side, can subtly and unconsciously make changes that you may not even notice.
Undoubtedly, at many moments in your life, even when you were not sure about choosing a new path or deciding on your next step, there have been people around you who have influenced your choices and feelings in some way. Maybe your friends with their words or maybe your family with their advice indirectly played a role in your decisions. But were these influences really conscious and intentional? Or have you simply fallen into a secret trap that others have set for you?
Imagine the moment you are sitting with your friends. Their words, their laughter, even their silence, imperceptibly enters your mind. What if all of this, seemingly just a simple conversation, actually made profound changes in your thoughts and future decisions? Now, this may sound strange to you, but stop for a moment and think of a memory when one sentence changed your perspective on something. Maybe a suggestion from a close friend, a comment from a colleague, or a little advice from someone you deeply trust has led to changes in your life that you didn’t even realize at first.
These seemingly insignificant influences gradually take root in your subconscious. Just as a drop of water slowly erodes a hard rock, the influence of those around you can change your mind. For example, you might remember a time when you were sitting with your family and your parents talked about an ideal future. Their words seemed normal at the time, but subconsciously these words took root in your mind and in the days that followed you realized that your choices somehow reflected that advice. You may have said to yourself, “These choices are mine,” but deep down, you know that the paths you’ve chosen have been shaped by them.
These changes may seem small at first. You may not notice any difference in your behavior or feelings at the beginning of the day. But if you look deeper, you will realize that these small changes have accumulated over time and significantly affected your life. Interestingly, such changes are felt not only at the individual level but also at the social and collective level. Sometimes we easily forget that even one look from someone who is precious to us at that moment can change the course of our life. These changes take place mysteriously yet naturally in your life.
But what happens if you take control of these changes? What if you could consciously identify these influences and use them to your advantage? How can you use these influences in a deeper and more positive way? The questions that arise for you will lead to new and surprising answers.
You may have always believed that your life is shaped by your own actions, but now you are asking yourself: is it really so? Can your life be written by others? This thought opens your awareness and in that moment your mind reacts to what was said, take new steps to change the direction of your life. Are you ready to step into this new world? A world where you can intelligently use the influence of others to guide your progress?
Your life, as you have seen it, is not the only result of your choices. These choices are part of the influences of the world around you that constantly affect you. Now is the time to recognize these influences, become aware of them, and henceforth, with strong will and full awareness of these forces, use them to build the future you have always dreamed of.
And this is just the beginning of the path that will lead you to a new world – a world where nothing will divert your will from the clear path and the right choices.
Chapter 2: “Why do some people change you?”
Imagine walking through a crowd on a typical day. While you may think you are lost in your own world, you suddenly realize that the looks, words, and even energy you receive from those around you are gradually influencing your feelings and thoughts. At first you may think that you are unaffected, but over time you will realize that these influences not only affect your behavior, but also change the way you view the world, people, and even yourself.
These sudden and unconscious changes are like the subtle changes that trees make in the wind without even realizing it. Just as trees slowly adapt to their environment over time, we too gradually change under the influence of the people and environment around us.
But why do these changes happen in this way? Why do some people have the ability to easily influence you and influence your decisions and behavior? And how is it that some people, almost unconsciously, have shaped your attitude?
Undoubtedly, one of the main factors of these effects is what psychology refers to as “social effect”. This effect shows that our behaviors and attitudes are shaped not only from within but also by the environment and people around us. It is not like we live in isolation and act completely independently of others. Rather, our behaviors and feelings are largely influenced by those around us.
In fact, when we observe the people around us, each of them can affect us in ways beyond what we imagine. These effects can range from subtle changes in daily behavior to more profound changes in your outlook on life.
Imagine being in a group of friends who are constantly talking about their successes, career advancement, or even their long-term plans. In such a group, even without realizing it, the motivation within you may increase. Suddenly there is a feeling that “I can do the same”. This is what psychology refers to as the “social comparison effect.” Subconsciously, when you compare yourself to others, you want to behave in a way that reflects their successes.
But these effects do not end there. Sometimes, certain people around us can influence our behavior and decisions in a more direct way. They may guide us in a certain direction with their actions and behavior without even knowing it. These kinds of influences are especially stronger and deeper in closer relationships, such as family or close friendships. For example, in family gatherings, a mother who constantly gives advice about personal life may unwittingly influence your choices.
These influences are not only through words, but also through body language, gestures, and even the energy you feel from those around you. Imagine being around someone who is clearly confident. This person, perhaps without saying a word, may have influenced you subconsciously and made you feel better about yourself and change your behavior as a result.
But how can we curb these effects? How can we harness these forces so that instead of falling into their trap, we can use them to progress toward success? The answer is that you must learn to recognize these influences, channel them positively, and use them as tools to achieve your goals and progress. Becoming aware of how the people around you influence your thoughts and behaviors is the first step in controlling them.
You may have noticed by now that you have never been completely unaffected by the influence of others. But this awareness gives you the power to direct those influences to your desires. From now on you can consciously identify the influences you receive from others and use them to lead a better and more successful life. Now, you have the ability to use the social influences and subconscious influences of those around you as tools for your personal development.
Chapter 3: “What secrets are hidden around you?”
Imagine you are in the middle of a dark forest, where light barely passes through the trees and shadows play mysteriously on the ground. In this forest, there are trees that can lead you to different paths, but which of these trees will ultimately lead to the light? Which path really takes you to the right destination? Can you move through the shadows and reach the light?
As these questions slowly form in your mind, remember that life works the same way. Your surroundings, like the trees in this forest, can change your path. Some people, perhaps unknowingly, lead you down a path you didn’t even know you were on. But the question is, can you really navigate these complicated and confusing paths and reach the light? This is a question that many of us unknowingly face throughout our lives.
To better understand this, you may need to take a deeper look at the relationships and dynamics around you. Have you ever noticed how certain people in your life, unknowingly, have a significant influence on your behavior, thoughts, and even emotions? These effects can sometimes be positive and sometimes negative. But what is interesting is that none of these effects can be predicted in advance. Some of these effects, as mentioned earlier, occur unconsciously without the person realizing it.
Maybe you have been in a situation where you felt significant and unexpected changes in yourself after meeting a certain person. You may have noticed that you have unconsciously developed a more positive outlook on life or that your attitude toward certain issues has changed. In such cases, that person unconsciously transferred energy to you, which led to changes in you. These changes can range from simple changes in attitude to deeper changes in behavior and decisions.
On the other hand, there may be other people around you who, after spending time with them, leave you feeling drained and negative attitudes or past failures resurface in your mind. These people may unconsciously influence you negatively, and over time, these influences can lead to adverse changes in your mood. These effects usually flow through your life like an undercurrent and you may not even notice the changes taking place.
One of the most interesting concepts in social psychology that explains why these effects happen the way they do is the “suggestion effect.” This effect shows that people can influence each other’s thoughts and behavior even without intending to. These effects can be so strong that the person himself does not even notice them. Have you ever been in a group where you unconsciously started imitating the behavior and speech of others? In such a situation, the energy and behavior of the people around you affects you in such a way that you cannot control how you react to them.
The fact that our behaviors and thoughts are influenced by our surroundings becomes complicated when we are unaware of these influences. Often these influences work in such a way that the person is not able to recognize them. In fact, humans are designed to be influenced by the energy and behavior they receive from others.
In this chapter, we aim to discover one of the most complex and yet most important mysteries of life: how can we use these external influences to improve ourselves and our lives? How can we harness these influences instead of falling victim to them? The first step in this process is awareness. Once you fully understand how your environment affects you, you can take control of those influences and use them to grow and improve.
Now the question is: can you be conscious enough to recognize all these unconscious influences? Can you use the power to use these influences to your advantage or remove them from your life if necessary? The answer to these questions lies indirectly within you. The more aware you become and the more you learn to deal with these influences, the more control you will have over your life.
The mysteries around you, as described in this chapter, can have a profound effect on your life. Once you fully understand how these influences work, you can direct your life in such a way that instead of being negatively affected by them, you turn them into tools for improvement. This power lies within you – you just need to learn to use it properly and move towards the best version of yourself.
Chapter Five: “How New People Can Shape Your Destiny?”
Imagine that you are in the middle of a complex and intertwined world. You look around and realize that who you are today is the result of the relationships you have made with others. But do you know that some special people can indirectly and unconsciously change your destiny? These people can open new doors for you and maybe just one meeting, one connection in your whole life can change the course of your life forever. Are you ready to discover this amazing power?
Sometimes in life we meet people who seem to have entered our path by accident. But do you know that many of these encounters are opportunities for inner growth and transformation? Sometimes, only one person can show us the hidden potentials inside us and how we can use them. Even if these people are in our lives for a short period of time, they can leave a profound impact that will eventually lead to significant changes in the course of our lives.
Even a word, a sentence or an idea that you hear from a new person in your life can completely transform your thoughts and feelings. Maybe one day in a conversation someone will tell you: “You have incredible abilities, you just have to believe in yourself!” And these words may light up your mind like a spark. At first, these words may seem like simple sentences, but after a while, you will find that they have settled inside you and an internal motivation to change and improve has been created in you.
Imagine you meet a new person who shows you the way to success and progress. They may give you ideas you never thought of yourself. This is why new relationships, connections and networks can be so powerful. Connecting with successful people – people who have something to offer – can easily lead to a change in your personal growth path, a change that may be hard to imagine at first. These people can help you find new ways to solve problems, open new horizons for your life and ultimately make you a different person.
In today’s world, you may think that everything you need is already inside of you. But is it really so? Have you ever thought that maybe someone new to your life could help you see yourself and the world around you in a new way? New people in your life can bring you new sources of ideas, solutions and positive energy. Maybe it all starts with a simple meeting – a meeting that seems insignificant at first, but actually leads to the formation of a new direction in your life.
To attract successful and positive people into your life, you must take conscious steps towards change. The first step is to put yourself in situations where these people can enter your life. Remember that new people cannot enter your life easily unless you are ready for them. This preparation begins with your inner transformation. When you define yourself in a positive and open way, new doors will open for you and new people – people you never imagined – will enter your life.
Now you may be asking yourself: How can I prepare myself for these changes? The answer is simple: change starts from within you. To attract positive people into your life, you need to become a positive and forward thinking person. Be someone who motivates others, someone who is always looking for improvement and someone who uses every moment to learn and grow. In this way, successful and positive people are naturally drawn to you.
Also, sometimes in life you have to let others learn from you and give you energy. These people can not only help you discover new abilities, but also create relationships that are mutually beneficial. These relationships can be the foundation of your future success and you can use them to achieve bigger goals.
Do not forget that new relationships do not always mean immediate change. Some people influence you over time and change your life path step by step. In this journey, you should learn that everyone who enters your life has come for a special reason. Maybe their goal is to help you, maybe their goal is to teach you something new, or maybe their goal is for you to become the best version of yourself through their presence. When you look at your relationships this way, nothing seems random.
This chapter teaches you that your life is shaped by what you put into it. Just as a tree grows with each branch, you can also step on the path to success and personal growth with each new connection you make. So be ready to bring new people into your life and let them help you shape a new destiny. If you believe in this process, you will undoubtedly experience significant changes in your life.
Summary and conclusion:
In this book, we explore the complex effects that people and the environment around us can have on our lives. From the unconscious influences of those around us to the power of new people to change the course of our lives, this book aims to shed light on how we are influenced by social interactions and relationships and how we can use these influences to create a better life.
In the first chapter, we addressed the question of whether our lives are written by others or not. In this chapter we have shown that our behavior and decisions are often unconsciously influenced by the people around us. These people can have a positive or negative impact on our lives and lead us down paths we may not even be aware of.
In the second chapter, we discussed why some people have great power to change the behavior and thoughts of others. These influences come through language, behavior and shared social influences and can significantly influence the way we think and act. Understanding these influences helps us to use them positively and move forward on the path of growth and development.
In the third chapter, we discovered the hidden secrets of our surroundings. In this chapter, we have shown how awareness of these hidden influences can make major changes in our lives and how we can use these “secrets” to improve our circumstances.
The fourth chapter provided guidance on how to free oneself from the negative influence of others. In this chapter, practical techniques for dealing with negative affect were presented, including setting emotional boundaries, changing attitudes, practicing self-awareness, and coping with stress. Ultimately, this chapter teaches us that each person has the power to change their circumstances and create a positive and healthy environment for their lives.
In the fifth chapter, we answered the question of how new people can change our destiny. Meeting new people and making positive connections can transform our lives. This chapter emphasizes that through new relationships, we can become the best version of ourselves, and through these positive connections we can take steps towards personal growth.
Conclusion:
At the end of this book, it shows that we are not only influenced by our surroundings and the people around us, but by understanding and using these influences, we can make significant changes in our lives. The influence of new people, positive relationships and creating a suitable environment for personal growth are among the factors that can change our destiny.
Being aware of social influences and human relationships allows us to make more informed choices in our lives. In this way, in order to achieve success and improve our situation, we must focus, use every social interaction as an opportunity to learn and grow, and form relationships that provide us with motivation and positive energy.
Remember that big changes often start with the smallest relationships and decisions. From now on, by understanding and being aware of these effects, you can effectively change your life and move towards a bright and successful future.